We should think of our life as an infinite journey without a destination. You take steps in one direction or another. Sometimes, you get lost along the way and fall down. Then you start again. However, it may also happen that you fall down and you feel like you don’t have the strength to get back up.

If I told you to create a list of reasons why you’re not doing well, what would that list look like?

You would most likely mention, the economic crisis, the taxes, the government, a corrupted society, your parents or friends that don’t support your vision, the weather, and so on.

They are all good reasons – but, what if I told you, you got it all wrong?

Let me tell you this: society steals our dreams because we allow it to. We face the world as victims, not as warriors. Now, change the rules. Don’t focus on others, focus on yourself. Don’t focus on the problem, focus on the solution. It’s not what happens; it’s how you react to what happens that changes everything. So, now, consider this shift: remove everything from your list and put on it only one thing: Yourself.

That’s right it’s all on you.

 

Awake to the truth that reality is an illusion…

As we know, our brain has the ability to represent what happens in the world. However, this internal representation isn’t what truly happens, due to the filtering and personalization of the brain.

We develop beliefs; in other words, something we accept as true.

Everyone creates their own realityWhat is reality then? What is the truth? The Toltec civilization used to say that everything is an illusion. Everyone creates their own mental version of the world as if everyone was dreaming a different dream. Nothing is true, only love is true. The rest is a creation of the mind and the ego.

Now, imagine you could awake and find out that everything you believed to be true about life and the world is actually only a creation of the human mind (a dream as the Toltec affirmed).

You discover that you were “domesticated”, you were taught the dream of your life by the people that were here before you. So, now that you’re aware of this process you can break free of the domestication. You can begin to dream your own dream, focusing your attention on discovering what you believe to be true.

 

Regaining Control After Failure

 

Here are four steps to help you take back control of your life:

 

  1. Look Within.

Think of an orange. When you squeeze it orange juice comes out. Why? Simple – because that’s what is inside the orange. Now take a look at yourself. When life squeezes you what comes out? Anger, hatred, depression… Why? We say people or situations made us feel that way, it’s all because of them, but actually, just like the orange, those feelings come out because they were already inside of you. If you want to stop suffering because of negative feelings, you have to look inside of you and change your perspective.

Then, when life squeezes you, the only thing that comes out is understanding and love.

 

  1. Focus Only on What You Can Truly Control

There are a lot of things in life that you can’t control. So, just let them go. You are not going to change them. One thing you can certainly control: yourself. What do you think is easier? Changing 1000 things in the external world or changing just yourself? Consider this example from Jim Rohn:

There are two salesmen and a storm outside.

The 1st salesman says:

“Wow, what a storm. With weather like this, they can’t expect us to go out and make sales.”

He stays home.

The 2nd salesman says:

“WOW. What a storm. With weather like this what a great day to go out and make sales! “

Everyone will be home… Including the other salesmen.

 

  1. Understanding Your “Why”

Every single person on the planet knows what they do. Some know how they do it, but very few people know why they do it, and by why I don’t mean making money. That’s a result. By why, I mean what’s their purpose, their cause? Life can knock you down many times. That’s when people give up, but you have to let reason get you back up. If you have clear values, you still understand why you are here.

If you know your purpose, if you know why you’re doing it then you’ll be able to pick yourself up every single day.

 

  1. Improve Your Resilience

If you want to improve and get better in life, then failure is inevitable. When you fail, try again and again and again. Work on improving your resilience. Resilience is that ineffable quality that allows you to come back stronger than ever after a failure. All that matters is that you are going to get up. It matters how you’re going to finish. Are you going to finish strong?

It’s not what happens that determines the quality of your life. This is because what happens, happens to everybody. It’s no different. Rather, it’s how you react that changes everything.

So, now it’s your choice. It’s all on you. What are you going to do? Comment below!